No child should ever be used as a status symbol, but all parents do want and need to know if they're doing a good job.
While raising our foster kids I wondered how I would be able to tell whether I had been a good mother or not when they grew up. They were unlikely to be employed or succeed at other things our society values, including those that truly are important.
Looking back I can see my parenting from a different perspective. Now I understand what really mattered was that I hung in there even when raising them wasn't easy and, most important of all, loved my kids in spite of all their problems,